By Dr. Coach Love

If you are just joining this discussion, please get caught up by reviewing Parts 1 and 2. 

Here is the discussion of #1 of 7 parent coaching guidelines for you to consider as a baseline for respectful parenting:

1)   ADOPT A REALISTIC MODEL OF PARENTING

• Ideal parenting seldom is possible—family life is complex: dual income, single parents, shared custody, step-parents, bi-nuclear families, blended families, limited income, and other family forms.

• Many parents hold themselves to impossible standards—-to please their own parents and meet their standards maybe???

• Perfect parents do not exist.

• Perfect children do not exist.

• Recognize your child may not adopt your values or goals.

• You can firmly guide, instruct, correct, and role model,  but not “make” or force your child do anything—unless you are prepared to remove all limits and engage in illegal acts of physical violence (intended as discipline) or abusive behavior such as intimidation, yelling, or emotional control.

• You can teach a value, but you do not control what your child learns or does.

• If your child behaves badly, it does not mean “you let” him/her. They made a choice and did not hear, understand, accept, or believe in your directions/values.

• Parents cannot take unlimited responsibility for all of their child’s behavior—good and bad. If parents do, it may discourage the child from owning his failures and successes and, therefore, not learn from them.

• You do your best until you learn how to parent better.

Do you have a realistic model for parenting? Ask yourself why or why not. Read on and check back for tips 2-7.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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By Dr. Coach Love 

In Part I, I suggested the three primary ways to view the parents’ behavior are legally, morally, and/or as healthy discipline. In summary: 

1. I defer to legal professionals for legal interpretations of assault/abuse or violation of personal rights.

2. I acknowledge different moral positions regarding parental discipline, based on religious beliefs or personal values. BUT…Isn’t morality of parenting behavior questionable when parents violate their own personal values while disciplining? Do they treat others in that manner? Would they accept the treatment they give their kids from people with authority over them??

3.  As to whether the parental behavior described is on target for healthy,

     respectful, and effective for the long term, my simple answer is NO.  

• Emotionally out-of-control parents behaving disrespectfully toward children   often throw away the opportunity to gain respect, be heard, or have influence with their children—especially teens. 

The best way to prevent “a bad scene” in your family when your kids get older is to begin now when your children are younger to adopt a respectful parenting style. Later as an adolescent, should he/she choose behavior you find objectionable, you will be better prepared to parent. Your parenting style will be emotionally healthy and constructive and will have stronger influence and credibility with your child. 

Here is the list of 7 parent coaching guidelines for you to consider as a baseline for respectful parenting:

1)     Adopt a realistic model of parenting

2)     Forgive your child for all flaws, imperfections, poor choices, and misdeeds

3)     Treat your child as his/her own person

4)   Be a humble parent and if you have one, trust in your Higher Power

5)   Do not set your child up to please you

6)   Know your own limitations

7)   Love your child with all your heart

In my next blogs, I will discuss these tips and give examples and details for you

to consider. What do you think?

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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By Dr. Coach Love 

Our children are 6, 8, and 10 and easy to parent.  We know families with teens who are struggling.  For example, our neighbor and former babysitter (now 17) is a good kid — honor student, polite and works part-time.  His frustrated parents admitted recently they took away his cell phone, car, and rummaged through all his drawers.  They yelled and cursed, broke down his bedroom door, grounded him— even from sports.  He hardly speaks to them and looks miserable.  His dad is angry because he’s lying and sneaking out of the house. Both parents are worried and suspect he is sexually active or drinking.  We probably don’t know the whole story, but is it right for parents to behave like that? It seems like they are out of control.We almost dread when ours grow up.  Is there anything we can do to prevent such a bad scene in our family?

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There are three primary perspectives from which to decide whether the parents’ behavior toward their son is “right”: legally, morally, and/or as healthy, effective discipline. 

Laws are in place to help protect children from physical abuse.  Additionally, parents do not have unlimited leeway to disrupt their child’s privacy or other rights in pursuit of discipline. Even children do have some rights.  Whether these parents had the legal right to intrude on their son’s privacy/restrict his freedoms in the way you describe, is a question for legal professionals. 

From a moral standpoint, however, parents often violate their own values when they discipline. Some lose control. The more angry and afraid parents become when they feel their child’s behavior is wrong or creating self-harm, the greater the chance they behave impulsively. They might act out, yell, curse, name call, impose unreasonable and unproductive restrictions, or produce a climate of emotional abuse. So how can violent or verbally abusive parental behavior similar to this occurring during attempted discipline be considered as morally sound actions?

This type of parental response generally triggers withdrawal or counter hostility.  The teen may feel violated, even when he/she agrees that the behavior is wrong. 

In terms of whether this parental behavior is right on target for healthy and effective discipline, the answer is NO. 

When parents angrily strip an adolescent of all privileges, intrude on privacy, disrespect personal belongings, and loudly voice moral mandates for behavior, communication disintegrates. 

Without communication, parents cannot discipline or influence in the direction they feel is best. As parents lose emotional control, they throw away their opportunity to be heard or influence behavior.  When parents manage their own feelings and actions, they gain influence and credibility with adolescents. 

In my next column, I will provide parent coaching tips to consider using with your children now.  These tips are designed to improve communication and strengthen your influence with your children before they reach adolescence.

What do you think? Check back for more options. 

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. 

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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By Dr. Coach Love

In Part 3, the options of marital and individual therapy to assist in breaking down controlling patterns were reviewed. When the controlling person refuses to enter into marriage counseling, the other partner can enter individual therapy to work on the marriage problem from their end.

In response, their controlling partner, who remains outside of therapy, may begin to change with a sincere and demonstrable change in behavior or express a motivation to join in the therapy. This can be an excellent sign. 

Nevertheless, if the controlling behavior is pervasive and/or abusive, when the sole partner works in therapy to change their part of the control dynamic— it is not without a serious risk:

• An escalation or beginning of physical violence is a real possibility. If this occurs, be sure to seek professional help immediately—mental health, medical, and/or legal.

The other risks include these types of responses from the partner not in therapy:

1. A temporary pseudo change in behavior until “the heat dies down”

2. A “punishing” demeanor of avoidance

3. Sudden sulking or emotionally dependant behavior

4. Greater intensity in emotional or verbal battering

5. Throwing up physical or financial obstacles to continuing in therapy

6. Threats of divorce with increased pressure to return to old behavior

7. Increased efforts to isolate the other from sources of support

Meanwhile, the partner in therapy may outgrow the marriage and leave.

Controlling dynamics in partnerships generally take away the sense of self from the non-controlling partner. Building self-esteem through focusing on positive relationships and activities that have been abandoned or neglected can return the individual to a sense of self.

There is no ‘good’ or ‘right’ time to stand up and create a new boundary in a controlling relationship. The ‘best’ time is before you lose yourself and can gain the strength and support to choose a change in your life. The choice is not easy

—but it is yours to make.

Check the table of contents below for links to more articles and Q&A on controlling behavior.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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by Dr. Coach Love

We have been married almost 10 years. We both work full-time and have two children. My husband works hard at his job and at home but has expressed his discontent that I don’t give him enough attention— look at him, show affection, talk to him, spend time with him, and (of course) initiate sex. I know he deserves more attention, but that feels like just one more thing on my to-do list. It stresses me out. Tips, please?

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Whether your to-do list is mental, electronic, or on paper, attention to your husband  (and marriage) “should” be on that list. If you value your marriage and love your husband, marital attention can become a priority at the top of your list. And if you want family stability, remember, your marriage is the foundation for your family. Strong marriages make for strong families.

You don’t paint your husband as particularly high maintenance or a slacker. And it sounds like you get stressed whether you give him attention or don’t. A solid marriage will reduce stress through good communication. Do you get enough of the kind of attention you want? Are you fully satisfied with your marriage? Maybe you are playing the “when this happens game” .  Are you delaying attention to your marriage for when— 

… the kids are in school…. they become more independent… we can trust a sitter…we don’t have an child activity planned…  children are out of the house… we have more money for sitters and dates….blah,blah,blah 

Get real. There are no good reasons (or excuses) to neglect your marriage— unless, of course, you don’t care about keeping it. Marital neglect leads to marital dissatisfaction which leads to emotional distance which leads to— well, let’s not go there.

Being on the family fast-track is a real threat to marriage quality because the activity level and stress can lead to marital neglect. Both spouses can be prone to neglect the other in favor of over focusing on children’s needs. Overfocusing on kids can damage marriages!

Yes, I did say over focusing on children. The reality is that the time you spend attending to and nurturing your marriage does not cause a neglect of your children. On the contrary, a marital focus directly benefits your children by strengthening the parental bond.

Here are a few quick tips to consider:

1. Reevaluate your children’s schedule and consider cutting back/carpooling.

2. Work to develop collaborative babysitting resources.

3. Create a list of low-cost, no cost, and at-home activities for date nights.

4. Schedule a regular date night.

5. Plan a Couple’s Love Decathlon.

http://blogcritics.org/culture/article/couples-love-decathlon-recreating-romance-and/

Think about an ounce and a pound. Simple efforts now on a small scale can prevent major weakening of your marital connection. Marital distance can lead to family weakness and destruction.

The best time to restore and enrich  loving and intimate connections with each other is today. Pay attention now or risk serious marital dissatisfaction in the future.

What do you think? Check the links below for additional information.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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By Dr. Coach Love

In Part 1, I talked about the individual rights we all have and do not lose in marriage or

an intimate partnership. Compromise, collaboration, cooperation, and negotiation are

important processes between spouses/partners when a conflict of rights occur. Control

is an unhealthy dynamic in all intimate partnerships.

Controlling relationships generally have the impact of:

1. Disrespecting, discounting, or degrading a partner in order

    to get one’s way.

2. Destroying a partnership and creating a parent/child relationship.

3. Triggering the loss of self for the “lower rank” partner

4. Fostering a climate of physical, emotional, or verbal abuse

5. Building distance in the relationship

6. Creating a “partnership of one”

Partners who yield to the control often:

1. Are fearful
2. Have low self-esteem
3. Practice a pattern of conflict avoidance
4. Focus habitually on pleasing others at their own expense
5. Lose self-confidence
6. Feel isolated or depressed

In relationships where the controlling partner has the self-awareness to acknowledge their control tendencies and expresses the willingness to change, the prospects for a healthy partnership are excellent. When both spouses agree on the problem definition—a controlling dynamic— it becomes less of a challenge to find a mutual solution to create change. With highly motivated partners, self-help materials are available as well as the opportunity to engage professional services from a marriage and family therapist or other mental health professionals.

Check back for the discussion about when the controlling partner is in denial of the impact of the behavior on the relationship.

What do you think? Review the table of contents below for more information and Q&A on controlling behavior in this blog.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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By Dr. Coach Love

I love my husband, but as a former corporate executive for many years with lots of authority over many people, he can be very controlling, so much so that I have nearly forgotten who I am. Every little thing has to be his way because he says it is the best way. He takes offense if I offer suggestions or a different way of doing something. It seems that I cannot even have my own opinion. We are financially comfortable and both contribute about the same. Recently, I started my own account and when I told him about it he blew up. He told me to take that money and pay off his bills. His behavior and words get very ugly and he often sulks in silence for weeks when he gets angry to punish me. He often behaves toward me like he is my boss — not my husband and partner. What can I do to regain myself?

Many corporations and military systems rely on an established hierarchy of people for their organizational processes— including decision-making. A common personal relationship problem occurs when individuals, who are in authority or part of a hierarchical system at work, believe that they “outrank” their spouses or intimate relationship partners and become controlling at home.

Rank has no place in a healthy and loving marriage or intimate partnership. When we enter marriage or another type of intimate partnership, we work together and compromise for the good of the relationship, but we also do not give up all of our individual rights. Here is a list of 8 basic individual rights we all have—even when our feelings, ideas, or needs differ from or conflict with those of our spouse or intimate partner.

WE HAVE THE RIGHT TO…

1. Hold our own opinion.
2. Express our opinion reasonably and be heard with respect.
3. Spend some money as we please.
4. Privacy.
5. Take some individual time/ alone time.
6. Have and express our feelings without criticism.
7. Be free of fear in our relationship.
8. Choose whether to have sex with our partner.

When we do not exercise our rights, we can lose who we are. Still, we can consciously  

decide not to exercise our rights; but feeling compelled to surrender or

having our rights taken away from us by our partner can be a sign of a controlling

relationship. Controlling relationships are typically based on consistently

executing the rights of one person at the expense of rights of the other. Controlling relationships generally have little or no compromise.

Which of the 8 basic individual rights listed above do you have and

choose to execute in your marriage? Understand, however, that exercising

our rights, at times, can violate or nullify the rights of our partners. In

healthy marriages, spouses acknowledge both their own and the rights of

their partner. In times of conflict of rights, partners work together to

build healthy solutions.

What do you think? In Parts 2 and 3, I will continue discussion. Review the link listed below for more information and Q&A on controlling behavior and control freaks.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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By Dr. Coach Love

In Part 1, we began the discussion about handling parenting when mother and father approach it from different or opposite angles. While both methods may produce compliance, sometimes parents give up on pursuing compliance and do the cleanup themselves. After all, it can be quicker and easier. But is it a good parent quality to settle for making things easier and quicker for parents or to consistently teach life skills and responsibility to children?  Probably both are appropriate at times. What are your values?

“Better” parenting approaches will usually take more time and energy. However, the end result will be creating the opportunity for teaching additional life lessons and relationship skills. Spending more time can lead to a more in-depth outcome.

One of the most universal methods to get kids to clean up after themselves is the dreaded ‘L’ word—LISTS. I know that making lists can be a royal pain for many adults. I can even hear some of you saying, “We shouldn’t have to do that. We are the parents and should just be able to tell them and they obey.” Does that really work for you? For many, the answer is no. If your preferred method doesn’t work— it doesn’t work. Try something different or retry a method with a different attitude and more persistence— like a list.

Most adults have well formulated opinions about lists and the value of making them. Are you a meticulous list maker or list avoider? Are your lists detailed? Do you make mental lists? Create shopping lists? To-do lists? Depending on your viewpoint, you may be more or less open to the idea of the regular practice of lists. Nevertheless, list making is a life skill. List can be a useful tool to improve compliance with kids cleaning up after themselves and for chores in general.

But— not all kids respond to the same approach from parents. And even the same approach from one parent will work— while it will be unsuccessful when used by the other parent. In every family with multiple children, it is common for individual kids to respond differently to parenting. There are also many ‘high maintenance’ kids who seem to require more highly focused—or intense— parenting.

In Part 3 of this series, I will talk about the special challenges for families with multiple and high maintenance kids.

What do you think? Check back for more options.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

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 Dr. Coach Love 

My husband and I have completely opposite approaches to getting our kids to clean up after themselves. He raises his voice and gets harsh the first time he asks them to do something and usually gets immediate response. He doesn’t believe he should have to tell them more than once. I don’t really think it works that way for our kids. I remain soft-spoken and calm, and follow-up until they do it, which eventually they do. We both get “results” but agree there must be a better way. Any ideas for us? 

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As a general rule, since mothers and fathers are individuals with diverse family backgrounds, they often have different— and even opposite— approaches to parenting. That can be okay in your situation since you both feel that you get “results”. But since you are asking about it, I think you might be working against each other on the issue of getting your kids to clean up after themselves. 

His loudness may undermine your softness. And your softness, along with repeated follow-up, reinforces his need for automatic loudness to get his desired first time compliance. Is this possibly the situation in your home?  Your kids likely have adapted and respond to both styles of parenting. Nevertheless, you don’t like his higher volume harshness and he doesn’t think your repetitive follow-up sends a firm enough message. The truth is that both approaches have potential negative lessons embedded in them. 

When parents get loud in order to get kids to clean up, the volume and tone, which maybe not perceived as excessive by the parent,  can be perceived by the children as yelling, hollering, rudeness, disrespect, impatience, or maybe felt as a fear factor. Do you want to risk modeling these ways of behaving for your children? Caution is in order to determine whether your children see their dad’s loudness in this way. 

When parents remain calm and repeat themselves and follow-up until the job gets done, other negative lessons might be communicated. This approach can spawn thinking that you’ll forget, wear out, put up with stalling, and that a delaying tactic is acceptable. Could your children be thinking this about you? 

So what are parents to do? Check back for my next blog in this series for more discussion and suggestions. 

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. 

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love 

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In my last blog on Messages #1 through #3, I provided information on the potential backfiring of specific lessons that seem to come with spanking and yelling. These entries take a look at the negative Rules of Engagement and how they get translated later into problems for the parent/adolescent relationship.

Review the first three and continue with these. Then think about how they could apply to you. Remember, we are talking about the messages from spanking and yelling, which may be interpreted by kids in a way not intended by parents.

Message #4- Escalate the situation to get what you want. When parents resort to yelling or physical contact to gain compliance, they have demonstrated how to escalate in order to prevail.  Have you ever seen a teen or preteen in full blown tantrum mode when they do not get what they want?

Parenting Opportunity Missed: Negotiating and compromising as a means to conflict resolution.

Message #5-Disagreements are win/lose. Adolescents are often described as arguing and pushing back about everything in an aggressive effort to WIN. Where did they learn this? I believe this usually originates early in parent-child relationship patterns, especially when parents get aggressive during attempts at discipline. Aggression from parents usually occurs when they buy into the impossible belief, “I MUST make my child do what I say. They are not going to win their way.”

Parenting Opportunity Missed: Learning respect and tolerance for
differences of opinion and the ability proceed to a solution without
agreement.

Message #6-Power struggles are necessary. Teens and preteens adapt this negative rule of engagement with parents when they persist in an angry power struggle in an effort to wear parents down in a manner similar to the way their parents wore them down as a younger child. It can become the survival of the ‘stubbornnest’.  Is that what you are going for here? Trying to strip your child of power is counterproductive.

Parenting Opportunity Missed: Preserving individual rights for choice, taking responsibility for decision making, limits on personal empowerment, and acceptance of natural consequences.

In Parts 4 & 5, I will offer more parent coaching tips. Check back over the next few weeks in my blog for more discussion on yelling and spanking as discipline strategies. What do you think?

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,
Dr. Coach Love

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