| Marriage secrets inventory
Choosing not to disclose information to your spouse creates boundaries in your marriage. Undisclosed information can be divided into 3 categories: SECRETS, SURPRISES, and PRIVACY ISSUES. Having too many boundaries, puts walls up in your marriage. Having the “right” boundaries creates the possibility of intimacy in your marriage.
MORE INFO LINKS: Article-Marriage Secrets and Boundaries |
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| YES | NO | DEPENDS ON… | DON’T KNOW | QUESTIONS |
| 1. Can there be bad secrets in a marriage? | ||||
| 2. Is keeping “bad secrets” from your spouse fair ? | ||||
| 3. If you keep (would keep) bad secrets from your spouse, does (or would) it affect feeling close to him/her? | ||||
| 4. Have you (or would you) plan a surprise for your spouse? | ||||
| 5. Have surprises been planned for you? | ||||
| 6. Does your spouse like surprises? | ||||
| 7. Do you like surprises? | ||||
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8. Are all surprises good? Explain.
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| HAVE | NOT HAVE | DO NOT NEED/WANT | OTHER | What are your privacy rights in your marriage? |
 Phone conversations |
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| While using bathroom facilities |
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| About prior sexual history |
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| Religion |
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| Politics |
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| Details of past relationships |
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| Medical information(Excl. STDs) |
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| STDs |
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| YOUR NOTES
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