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· On a separate sheet of paper, answer these questions. Be complete and honest.
1. As a child, did you have any housecleaning jobs or chores? Describe.
2. Think back to what age, how, and from whom you learned to clean. Describe all the particulars.
3. Did it seem like you were always working or had too much work to do?
4.Was it fun, stressful, or just a boring job? Did you resist?
5. Were you criticized, judged, punished, or spanked when you did not do it someone else’s way?
6. Did you have to do it over if your chores were not done a certain way? Would you? Why?
7. How did you feel when you followed exact instructions? Loved? Praised? Other? Describe.
8. Were your duties as a child gender assigned—- boys’ and girls’ jobs? How? Was it fair to you?
9. Did you observe either of your parents doing more than an equal share of housecleaning? Describe.
10. Did you observe your parents working together to complete housecleaning? Describe.
11. As an adult, do you feel a sense of accomplishment and pleasure when things are clean?
12. As an adult, do you distinguish between things being clean versus things being organized? If so, how?
13. As an adult, do you feel upset, stressed, or uncomfortable when things are not in as good condition as you like? Describe.
14. Do you feel judged by others when they visit if — your house is not up to your standards? Who? How? Why? Describe.
J Ask your partner to complete this quiz. J Schedule a meeting to compare your differences and similarities. J Are there any surprise answers? J Eliminate a right-wrong approach. J You may just be different. J Use your results as a foundation for a plan.
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MORE INFO LINKS: Lists- Housecleaning: 7 Ways to Divide Family Work;: Posts- Pt1 4-10-08, Pt2 4-20-08
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