Stop Nagging Tips

Tips for Partners

on How to Stop Nagging

It takes TWO to waltz and TWO to create the “nagging dance.” The tips below may help you waltz through to a solution for nagging about household tasks and still get the jobs done.

• Negotiate a mutually acceptable timetable or a time range for task completion.  Stick to it.

• Remembering is for the individual with the job to do. Tape a note to your forehead or put it on your to-do list in your Blackberry.  It is your responsibility.  Reminders are generally for children; except when adults can casually provide a reminder as an appreciated favor without nagging or becoming “parent like.”

• As a rule, what is obvious or urgent to one member of the couple is not a worldwide concern; nor is what seems unnecessary or trivial to the other, unnecessary or trivial for the relationship.

• If you are a self-confessed procrastinator (a.k.a.  a disorganized, forgetful, or lazy person), get it together. Work on this trait to reduce stress in your relationship.

• If you are a self-confessed perfectionist (a.k.a. anal person, nitpicker, or controller), chill out.  Soften this characteristic to reduce conflict between you.

• When you feel tempted to agree insincerely with your partner in order to avoid conflict or an argument – do not.  Often you will simply delay the unpleasantness/negativity if you fail to do what you agreed in the time frame your partner expected.

• Respect your partner for who he/she is.  Differences are part of the relationship package.

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