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Housecleaning wars list
9 Tips on How to Make a List of
How, What, and When to Clean
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- Begin with the discussion of the similarities and differences between you and your partner. Create an understanding of your differences.
- Brainstorm together and write down everything that comes to mind that you currently do, see your partner complete, or a job that is currently being neglected and needs to be done.
- Do not eliminate anything that is mentioned by either partner. Now is not the time to eliminate.
- Agree to avoid argument and debate at this point.
- Set a date and time to meet again before you go your separate ways.
- Before your second meeting, each partner commits to completingthe chart below. Enter each of the cleaning items generated by your brainstorming session from #2 and check the desired column. Use additional sheets as needed.
- At your second meeting, assess both lists. Combine and integrate them. Work through on how to divide the list.
- Commit to using the new list for at least two weeks and up to one month. Schedule another meeting to review your success.
- At your third meeting, begin the process again as appropriate and change your list as agreeable. Periodically review on request or when things seem off.
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J Remember, if you appreciate the outcome produced by your partner’s cleaning method, consider accepting instructions on how to create the same results—how to do it his/her way.
J And if you tend to be a bit anal, realize that it is very healthy in a relationship to compromise with your partner—lighten up.
J Now would be a very good time for both of you to discover the relationship benefits of accepting influence from the other.
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MORE INFO LINKS: Lists- Housecleaning: 7 Ways to Divide
Posts- Pt1 4-10-08, Pt2-4-20-08;
Quizzes-Housecleaning Wars Quiz
© Copyright 2008 P.H. Pickett, Ph.D. All rights reserved.
Reprint with permission.
Contact DrCoachLove@CenturyTel.net for permissions.
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Listing is great stuff! But, I have come to discover a list is like passing in review of a row of new car lots…They make for a great idea to have but if there is no will to get one and have it done…ain’t gonna happen! What we will we will do! What we wish simply won’t happen.
My wife and I keep a very nice home. BUT, there are some who would visit our home say it does “not looked lived in.” This is of course from persons whose thoughts on “live in” reign from pull it out drop it….pick it up later. Eventually, you find yourself living in an obstacle course. It is simply amazing to me what persons will put up with when creating an environment for comfort.
I am of the belief a home, much like a lot of things we do, define much of what is going on with us personally; a lot of clutter and “hurdles” translates to “I’m hiding something I want no person to find” on a personal level. The same is true in the opposite direction as well (guilt); “I can’t clean my act up good enough! Gotta get it cleaner.”
With that said, it is great you have presented a plan with which those who need one can work…….
AngllhugnU2
Author of IM with God