Dating:Blind Dates

How to Find a Companion: Blind Dates

 

by Dr. Coach Love

 

In your companion search, it is important for you to understand your values and comfort zone.

Follow your values; however, if you do not expand your comfort zone, you may seriously limit your chances of meeting people. 

One of the often-overlooked facts of life is that everybody you know and everybody you meet has an uncle (aunt), brother (sister), neighbor, coworker, father (mother), cousin or friend. He/she might be available.  Those contacts just could be a good somebody to meet.

And think about it.  Blind dates are not blind.  You go into the date knowing that someone you know thinks well enough of this person to introduce you.  You are not blind. 

You can see that people want to help you. If there is no match and you kept yourself safe, you’ve gained experience. The “matchmakers” certainly cannot be expected to be perfect in their recommendations. You will both be a lemon and meet a lemon. _ _It happens!

Consider these 2 suggestions for your companion search. If outside of your comfort zone, can you expand the zone? What is the possibility that the suggestions may be workable for you?

• Suggestion #1 is very simple.  Tell everyone you know that you’re interested in meeting new people. And if you are a woman seeking a male companion, meet new women as well.  Announce your availibilty to explore new relationships. Do not assume. Again, everyone you know and everyone you meet has an uncle (aunt)………
• Suggestion #2 is to become informed about the 2K version of blind dating: online and dating introduction services.  When you use proper precaution and commonsense, the risk can be minimal. The choice is always yours. But again, you are really not blind here either.

Again, I do not claim to know what you SHOULD do. I do know from personal and professional experience what could be successful.

Bottom-line, get out of the house.  You are not likely to meet anyone standing in your kitchen unless it is the proverbial worker with the exposed crack.

Make the effort.  Stick with it.  Happy dating!

 

MORE INFO LINKS: Articles- Successful Dating; Lists- Dating Action Rules, Dating Rules: 4 C’s; Reflections- Unhappy Relationships; Quizzes- Dating Online Screening

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