Tips for Guys Dating Again- Part 6

By Dr. Coach Love 

This is Part 6 in a series of tips for guys who are dating again after divorce. If you are looking only for casual sex, then these tips may not be for you. But if you’re looking to develop a long-term relationship (including emotional and sexual intimacy) the best tip is to prepare yourself ahead of time. If your dating skills are weak or rusty, or just straight up in need of polishing, go back and review the first four tips here and then continue. 

Here is a quick summary of Tips #1-4 to follow— before you go out to meet women or on a date: 

1. Focus on good grooming. (More important than—and not as simple as—you may think.)

2. Know your inner game: thoughts, feelings, goals, needs, and beliefs. (Think you already know? Go back and check this to be sure.)

3. Develop your wish list. (A review of this tip will help you evaluate whether your list is realistic.)

4. Grow your likeability. (Sure, you need to be yourself—your best self.) 

And now for Tip #5 to follow before you go: 

Create Confidence for the Road

1. How solid is your self esteem?

    VERY HIGH 10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1 VERY LOW

2. What are your strengths— what are you good at or do you like about yourself?  List at the least four items.

_____________  ______________  ________________   ________________

3. Do you have a handle on your weaknesses? How? ____________________________________________________________

4. Why do people like you? List at least four reasons or qualities. 

_____________  ______________  ________________   ________________ 

 (If the answer is no, go back and reread Tip #4 carefully.) 

5. If your friends and family had to use one positive word to describe you, what would that word most often be?______________________________

Complete the above exercise carefully and redo it as necessary until you recognize how the ‘real you’ will attract enough women to want to get to know you. Take confidence in knowing that it is true. 

What do you think? Check back for more options.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. 


Dr. Coach Love 


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About drcoachlove

Dr. Coach Love is the author of the multiple award-winning book, The Marriage Whisperer: Tips to Improve Your Relationship Overnight, published by MSI Press, a traditional publisher in California.

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