Getting Along Better with My Bossy Wife
By Dr Coach Love
I love my wife— but she is bossy. How can I get along better with her?_________________________________________________________________
Bossy means different things to different people. Depending on what ‘type’ of bossy you see your wife as being, there are different ways to improve your reaction to her. I identify six basic types of behavior that may come across as bossy— especially in intimate partnerships.
The six behaviors commonly perceived as bossy (controlling/ butinsky) are:
______1. Always trying to be helpful.
______2. Insisting they have the best answer/way to do something.
______3. Pushing you to consider all options.
______4. Interrupting you and being outspoken by nature.
______5. Needing to prove they are smarter than you.
______6. Feeling driven to be in control and right.
Review the list and mark:
(0) by the characteristics that do not describe your wife
(+) next to the descriptions that apply sometimes
(++) for the items that often fit how you see your wife.
Evaluate your responses and identify which characteristics are more descriptive of your wife. See if there is a pattern. There are two main clusters of characteristics and, of course, a mixture of the two.
Cluster A (1, 3, 4)
IF you perceive that your wife tends to be—