Tips for Guys Dating Again- Part 2
By Dr. Coach Love
In Part 1, I suggested that you prepare your self ahead of time for dating and meeting women. Here is the first tip to master before you go out to successfully meet and date.
1. Focus on good grooming
Now I know that this may sound lame, but a lot of guys are very, very casual in their appearance—or maybe even sloppy? Some of those same guys might be grumbling, ”She’s gotta like me for me.” Or “That’s who I am, take me or leave me.” If that’s your attitude, you probably get left a lot.
Your appearance sends a screaming message before you even open your mouth. It is the first way you demonstrate whether you are capable of caring about someone else. The way you look broadcasts what you think and how you care about yourself. And your appearance can certainly show you care way too much—- you are too full of yourself. The focus on good grooming includes watching out for “over grooming”.
If you tend to be short on your sense of style and grooming, consult with a trusted female— friend, sister, cousin or with the guy whose style you admire.
Of course, there are times to be more casual and relaxed with grooming. Meeting new people, especially women, is not one of them. You need to attract interest, not speculation about whether you just rolled out of bed.
Remember it is important to first demonstrate your best true self— inevitably, your lesser self will show up later uninvited.
In Part 3, I will talk about how you can get in touch with your inner game, which is your thoughts, feelings, goals, needs, and beliefs. Without this knowledge, you cannot expect to make a significant connection to a woman.
Check back and tell me what you think?
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
MORE INFO LINKS: Archives- 1/17/09
Articles- How to Find a Companion: Blind Dates, 2/13/08
Successful Dating, 2/20/08
Quizzes- Dating: Online Screening 2/22/08
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Dr. Coach love’s first laws of attraction
1. The bigger the net of interest you cast, the bigger the catch.
2. Better to catch attention and release, then never to catch attention at all. |
