When Are Work Friends Too Friendly? Part 6
by Dr. Coach Love
In Parts 1-5, I began the discussion of what to do if you discover or suspect your spouse to be emotionally cheating. There are many choices on how to respond. Check back to catch up on all the discussion and options.
Option D: You decide not to confront your spouse because you are sure there is no sexual cheating involved. Your spouse “would never do that.” You don’t like the idea of the emotional cheating, but your spouse always seems to need emotional connection more than you do. You ignore your discovery.
This approach to suspected emotional cheating is a risky one. Opposite sex friends who share many intimate emotions, may give in to desire and temptation to seek one thing more from their relationship. Taking comfort thinking “my spouse would never have sex with somebody else” has proven to be a seriously unfortunate belief for some.
1. Are you giving your spouse a pass on emotional cheating so that you don’t have to work harder to express emotions in your marriage?
2. Is it easier or more convenient for you to have your spouse occupy his or her time with that friendship?
3. Does this allow you to focus intensely on your work and not concern yourself with his/her emotional needs?
4. Do you feel that give this gives you more “space”?
Any inclination to give your spouse a pass on emotional cheating could lead to a traumatic outcome with no easy or quick return—if any.
What do you think? Check back for more options.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
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POLLS- Emotional Cheating-Work Friends
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Lists-Sexual Affair and Healing
Quizzes- Emotional Cheating Quiz
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