When Are Work Friends Too Friendly? Part 3
by Dr. Coach Love
In Parts 1 & 2, I discussed how to recognize a too friendly friendship between opposite sex friends/co-workers. No one else can advise you what to do in response to your suspicion of emotional cheating between your spouse and a friend because of the e-mails you found. There are many options to consider.
OPTION A- Wait to confront him about the e-mails. Continue to privately monitor his e-mail so you can detect if something “worse” happens. Then you will have more evidence with which to confront him.
So what about this option? Before you consider the above ask yourself these questions:
1. What do you gain by allowing time for the relationship to remain unquestioned?
2. Are you comfortable with continuing to access his e-mail secretly?
3. Do you consider this violating his privacy?
4. What if the roles were reversed?
5. How will you know when you have “enough evidence”?
6. What is enough evidence for you?
7. How will waiting for clarity on this issue affect you emotionally?
Consider carefully how you would answer the above 7 value questions. It is important to examine your personal values. While there may be circumstances under which collecting more information might be healthy for your relationship, those reasons may not balance out the benefits of honesty and directness in your marriage. Do you really want to wait to see if something “worse” might happen?
In my next blogs, I will discuss more options.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
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