Who Needs Anger Management? Part 3
by Dr. Coach Love
Continuing from Parts 1 and 2, where I suggested that ‘anger management’ is really ‘emotional management’ and that there are two basic types of anger MISmanagement—occasional blowing-up and routine spouting-off.( Review these posts for descriptions.)
And guess what?
‘Blowing-uppers’ are frequently married to ’Spouting-offers’!
Such a combination! Do you know anybody like this? You, perhaps??
Everybody needs effective emotional management. How are strong are your emotional management skills? The first of 5 key skills for emotional management is ‘develop an emotional vocabulary’.
Like red, yellow, and blue—-sad, mad, and glad are the primary emotions. But similar to a color palette, all emotions are a blend or degree of the three primary feelings. Learn the vocabulary of feelings.
How quickly can you name:
- Five words related to feeling SAD?
- Five words related to feeling MAD?
- Five words related to feeling GLAD?
- What about SAD + MAD?
- MAD + GLAD?
- GLAD + SAD?
Get the idea?? Anyway, once you (or if you already) have a full vocabulary of words to describe your feelings, the next skill is to ‘recognize your emotions’.
Check back for more on emotional management.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
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