Who Needs Anger Management? Part 1
by Dr. Coach Love
I think my wife needs anger management, but she says that I do. I seldom get mad, and don’t let things bother me. When I’ve had enough, I blow up, but only occasionally. My wife seems to get mad about every little thing and lets me know about it. Who needs anger management?
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Guess what? You both need more than anger management. You need to learn emotional management.
The term ‘anger management’ has become popularized due to the well-known movie by that title. But anger is an emotion that, when mismanaged, links with problems appropriately expressing other emotions as well — – — fear, disappointment, hurt, frustration, grief, respect, and others. When all emotions are managed, it is less likely that anger gets out of control either in the occasional blowing-up like you admit or in the routine spouting-off you describe for your wife. Managing emotions is also the basis for emotional intelligence
What does it mean when you ‘manage your emotions’? Here are five key skills.
1. Develop an emotional vocabulary.
2. Recognize your emotions.
3. Do not “stuff” or deny your feelings.
4. Make a conscious decision of whether to express feelings.
5. Choose appropriate language to communicate effectively your message.
NOTE: If anger escalates into any type of violence or abuse against a person, or even animals/property, please seek professional therapy services immediately.
Check back for Part 2 when I will continue the discussion on emotional management.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
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