Control Freaks in My Life- Part 2
by Dr. Coach Love
vIn my last post, I listed the 7 basic types of controlling people to help you decide
if the people in your life are controlling and offered tips on how to identify if you
might be controlling in your business or personal relationships.
Now I will answer your second question:
You can’t get controlling people to change.
You can ignore the behavior or comments, shift your focus,
and avoid responding to the control.
When you recognize that you can only change yourself and behave accordingly, you are exercising the best choice for dealing with “control freaks.” Often, however, it is not possible to ignore their behavior or shift your behavior enough to make a difference.
If the controlling person is your boss (or has other authority/power over you) and you cannot ignore the behavior or comments, taking direct action or confronting them may not be in your best interests. You may jeopardize your job or trigger significant personal/physical risk as a result. A dramatic life change (or job switch) may be needed to remove the control freak from your life.
A WORD OF CAUTION: If the control freak has control or gains power over you due to verbal or physical abuse—either feared, threatened, or acted out on you—please seek professional mental health services and/or a legal remedy immediately. This may not simply be a controlling relationship—-it may be an abusive one.
Next post, I will offer more coaching tips to deal with controlling people.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
MORE INFO LINKS: Lists-Control Freaks-7 Types;
Dealing with Control Freaks-9 Tips (Coming Soon);
Posts- Pt1 8/13/08, Pt3 8/22/08,/Pt4 8/25/08;
Reflections- Controlling a Control Freak;
Quizzes-Am I a Control Freak? (Coming Soon)
v I invite your comments below.
v E-mail your relationship coaching questions to
DrCoachLove@HireCoach.com.
v Questions selected will be edited as needed to reflect privacy,
brevity, clarity, and general interest.
v Sorry, Dr. Coach Love is unable to offer any personal advice
through this blog.
v Check out relationship coaching services at www.HireCoach.com.
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