Child Discipline: It’s Not About Lying Part 3
by Dr. Coach Love
Continuing from Parts 1& 2, where I discussed the reasons people lie and ideas for parents to help reduce teen lying….
While upsetting and frustrating, many kids will some times lie about some things. Keep it in perspective. SO—
1. Do not overreact.
2. Respond calmly.
3. Be sure to address any lie you discover.
4. Determine the goal of the lie.
5. Have a conversation about the loss of trust that accompanies lies.
6. Show your disappointment respectfully.
7. Express your clear hopes that he can trust you enough
to tell the truth in the future.
8. Ask what you can do to encourage and accept truth from him.
9. As far as consequences for lying from teens, the more natural the consequence, the better.
Remember, for most people, lies are not about lying. Lies are about personal boundaries. Be sure that your parental boundaries are not setting your child up to lie. What do you think?
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
MORE INFO LINKS: Lists- Reduce Teen Lying-6 Tips (Coming Soon);
Posts- Pt1 7/23/08; Pt2 7/26/08;
Quizzes- Teens and Lying
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