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The Launching Zone and “Adult” Kids- Part 1

by Dr. Coach Love

We have a 22-year-old son who finished his degree last year.  He has been a

great student and all-around good kid.  But he still only works part-time at a kid job, and keeps really late hours. Although he lives with us, he is not home very often. 

My husband agrees that getting our son out on his own would be good for him. 

At the same time, he doesn’t understand why I’m trying to “push” our son 

to move. Our son pays his own gasoline, but not much else. I think it’s time for him to support himself. I do not understand why he isn’t in any hurry to get his freedom. Now he’s throwing around the idea of attending graduate school–

on us. Ideas?

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There comes a time in the life of every good family when parents are ready

to send their kid to the Launching Zone. You are ready before your son

wants to go.

There is nothing mysterious about your 22-year-old wanting you to continue to take care of him.  You’ve done a great job of nurturing, supporting, and,

of course, funding his goals and future. Often it seems that 16-year-olds

are more eager to be in the Launching Zone than twenty-somethings.

Despite the illusions of personal and lifestyle freedom, most “adult” children understand clearly how much “financial freedom” they lose when they get out on their own.  Many are not prepared to deal with that lifecycle transition. 

It is a huge step in life.

Check back for Part 2 where I will continue the discussion on launching kids and offer coaching tips.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Regards,

Dr. Coach Love

MORE INFO LINKS: Posts- Pt2 4-28-08; Quizzes-Kids Moving Out

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