Communication Weed #3: About Being Right-Part 3
by Dr. Coach Love
Continuing with——9 Communication Weed Pullers
- 5. Support your position if necessary with facts. But do not be a know-it all.
- 6. Remember that your partner is no more stubborn in his/her refusal to admit s/he is wrong—-than you are obstinate in your quest to be right.
- 7. Do not make being right and wrong an important goal of your communication.
- 8. When you feel or know you are right right, let it be enough. Agreement from others is unnecessary. Validation is optional.
- 9. Understand that in decision-making, reaching the outcome has more to do with compromise and negotiating. Righteous postures can block resolution of an issue.
In communication, both insistence on being right and the counterpart of failure to admit being wrong will literally kill communication over time. Work consistently to weed out the mindset that all conversations must have right and wrong positions. Focus instead on understanding differences. The other person is entitled to feeling and thinking differently from you.
If there is a right position in communication, it is to stop insisting that the other is wrong.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. Does this work for you?
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
MORE INFO LINKS: Posts-Pt1 3-06-08, Pt2 3-07-08; Reflections- On Being Right in Convesation, Need to be Right
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