Communication Weed #2: Dis-communication Part 3
by Dr. Coach Love
Continuing…In Part 2, I offered 2 tips to help stop dis-communication.
Here are coaching tips 3-7.
3. Create a list of about 4-6 of your partner’s least desirable habits. Each partner shares his/her list. Use the list for the tasks below.
4. Select 1 of your partner’s habits or shortcomings.
§ Stop pestering her/him about it.
§ For example,” Stop leaving that #$%@^! door open!
Close it!”
§ Do it yourself without attitude.
§ Think calmly instead,” It’s not a deal breaker.”
5. Pick 2 long-term bothersome habits for which your partner
lacks motivation to change.
§ Agree to take a breath, and “let go” without attitude.
§ Think lovingly instead, “That’s just my honey!”
6. Choose at least 1 of your own habits annoying to your partner,
which you are willing to change to please him/her.
§ Develop a conscious plan to reduce and eventually
eliminate the habit(s).
§ Be supportive and do not nag over your partner’s planned
improvement.
§ Agreed-upon cueing may be helpful to reinforce change.
§ Language might be, “Dear, here’s an opportunity to…”
7. Make a deal to deliver a minimum of 1 deliberately
positive comment each day to your partner.
§ Do not take for granted the everyday things you
appreciate in your relationship.
§ Creating this good habit will help rid your relationship
of dis-communication.
Intimate long-term relationships survive and thrive best when
couples identify dis-communication and work as partners to do the “weeding.” Could this work for you?
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
MORE INFO LINKS: Posts- Pt1 2-28-08, Pt2 3-03-08
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