A Permission Slip from Her- Part 2
by Dr. Coach Love
Continuing…
Establishing individual plans BEFORE a discussion with your significant other actually violates your own values—putting your relationship needs (and family) as a priority above your own.
Think about it. With this change in mindset, routine joint planning with your significant other/ wife does not make you “controlled by her.” Talking to her is actually checking signals, coordinating, avoiding scheduling conflicts and showing courtesy toward/respect for your partner’s needs and opinions.
You are also expressing your needs. When you and she display mutual respect toward each other despite differences, your relationship grows. Your children (if any) observe.
However, if either you or your partner does not agree with both of these value statements, check out my next blog. This is also not a permission issue.
This is my story and I’m sticking to it. See you next time when I will offer more thoughts on why this not about permission.
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
MORE INFO LINKS: Posts- Pt1 2-22-08, Pt3 2-24-08
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