A Permission Slip from Her- Part 1
by Dr. Coach Love
My significant other and I have great relationship but… I feel like I need a permission slip from her before I make plans with friends or get away for a weekend fishing trip. When I set my plans before I tell her the details, she becomes upset with me. Although she says I do not need permission, it sure feels like it. Any thoughts?
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You report a great relationship with her. I assume you want to keep it that way. Therefore, while you have the right to make individual decisions, you also have commitments. Commitments to significant others must always factor in when we value our relationships. What are your relationship values? For example, do you agree with both of these value statements? Does she agree with both?
1. It is healthy for couples to have individual leisure activities.
2. Time and obligations with your significant other (and/or children) should remain a priority over leisure time alone or with others.
If you agree with both of these statements, you are not seeking permission when you talk to your significant other before making plans that do not include her. Instead, you are demonstrating that your partner is (and any kids are) top priority by dovetailing your individual plans secondary to couple/family time.
Check out my next blog for more of my thoughts.
This is my story and I’m sticking to it. See you next time—–
Regards,
Dr. Coach Love
MORE INFO LINKS: Posts- Pt2 2-23-08, Pt3 2-24-08
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