Eight Red Flags for Online Friendships
Review Parts 1-3 to catch up on the discussion about online friendships, the impact on marriages, and the motives for blocking spouse access to technology outlets. Now check out 8 risky red flags and mark what applies to you.
With your OLF (online friend) are you….
- _____Feeling an escalation of the emotional need or drive to connect on line.
- _____ Increasing the duration, number, and variety of modes of contacts.
- _____Thinking often about him/her when not in contact.
- _____Personalizing the contact: expressing feelings.
- _____Expanding the subject to intimate topics.
- _____Discussing what you would not/can not discuss with your partner.
- Procrastinating on task/responsibility due to spending time with your OLF.
- ________Kidnapping time, energy, and emotion from your marriage (and family) due to your activities. Examples:
_______ Visiting with your OLF at home online but claiming to be working instead.
________Passing up your sweetie’s invite to cuddle fireside.
________Letting your fingers do the talking with your OLF instead calling it an early night in bed with your spouse.
________Feeling eagerness to rush through family dinner and time with kids to connect with your OLF.
_______Combining your walk or workout with texting your OLF
_______Feeling that your OLF is a welcome escape from your life.
Marking just ONE indicates you are on a slippery slope to increased trouble in your marriage. Maybe—–you checked more? What are you going to do about it?
What do you think? Check back for more conversation and ideas.
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Dr. Coach Love
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